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The L.I.G.H.T. Grid.

If A.B.U.S.E. is the map of what hurt you, L.I.G.H.T. is the map of what keeps you. What keeps your light on when life has every reason to dim it?

I built this grid the same way I built the first one — from twenty-five things that actually held me up. It exists in two versions because the same practices live in two languages: faith-based for the church and the conference room, and broad-language for the workplace, the school, the boardroom. Same framework. Different audience.

— Dr. DeAnna Lynn Nix, Founder of N.A.M.E.
Choose your version
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Salvation
Finding Your Foundation
Rededication
Recommitting to Your Growth
Prayer Lifestyle
Daily Reflection & Intention-Setting
Bible Reading & Meditation on Scripture
Reading That Feeds Your Soul
Ultimate Worship to GOD
Connecting to Something Greater Than Yourself
Faithful Church Membership
Consistent Community Involvement
Consistent Outreach & Volunteering
Volunteering & Outreach
Accountability + Prayer Partners
Accountability Partners
Counseling
Counseling
Therapy
Therapy
Personal Bible Study & Journaling
Personal Study & Journaling
Practicing Gratitude
Practicing Gratitude
The Core
Keep the
LIGHT ON!
Choosing Forgiveness
Choosing Forgiveness
Nature Walks
Time in Nature
Meditation on Scripture
Quiet Reflection & Stillness
Singing Gospel Music
Music That Lifts Your Spirit
Listening to the Word or Worship Overnight
Listening to Something That Restores You Overnight
Sharing Your Testimony
Sharing Your Story
Remembering Those Who Have Less Than Me
Remembering Those Who Have Less Than You
Practicing Thankfulness
Practicing Thankfulness
Serving Your Family
Serving Your Family
Cleansing Relationships
Removing Toxic Relationships
Rehearsing & Confessing Scripture
Speaking Truth Over Your Life
Personal Confessions
Personal Declarations of Who You Are
Faith Based version
Written in the language of ministry — for church, conference, and faith-rooted audiences.
How to use this grid

Circle what you already practice. Star what you want to begin. Draw lines between the squares that keep your light on. This is mine — what is yours?

What this grid covers

Mental. Spiritual. Physical. Emotional.

The twenty-five squares are not random. Every practice on the grid lands in one (or more) of the four dimensions of wellness. This is what makes it a complete answer to A.B.U.S.E. — trauma touches all four, so the response has to as well.

i.
Mental
Study, counseling, therapy, and rehearsing truth over your own life.
ii.
Spiritual
Worship, prayer, meditation, and connection to something larger than yourself.
iii.
Physical
Time in nature, music, rest, and the body practices that hold the rest up.
iv.
Emotional
Forgiveness, gratitude, healthy relationships, and naming your own identity.
v.
The Core
"Keep the LIGHT on!" — the daily decision underneath every square.
Definitions

Same practices. Two languages.

The grid above and the definitions below mirror your toggle selection. Switch versions any time — the framework is the same, the words shift to meet the room.

L Row I · Where you anchor
  • Salvation
    The starting line. A surrendered yes to Jesus that becomes the floor everything else stands on.
  • Finding Your Foundation
    The starting line. The grounding belief or commitment that becomes the floor everything else stands on.
  • Rededication
    Coming back. Returning to the practice you walked away from, without shame.
  • Recommitting to Your Growth
    Coming back. Returning to the practice you walked away from, without shame.
  • Prayer Lifestyle
    Talking with God like the conversation never ends — not an event, a posture.
  • Daily Reflection & Intention-Setting
    A daily inner conversation. Not an event — a posture you carry through the day.
  • Bible Reading & Meditation on Scripture
    Letting Scripture re-author the story trauma tried to write.
  • Reading That Feeds Your Soul
    Letting better words re-author the story your trauma tried to write.
  • Ultimate Worship to GOD
    The center of gravity. The thing all the others orbit around.
  • Connecting to Something Greater Than Yourself
    The center of gravity. The thing all the others orbit around.
I Row II · Who walks with you
  • Faithful Church Membership
    A consistent body of believers — not a Sunday drop-in, a spiritual home.
  • Consistent Community Involvement
    A consistent group of people you belong to — not occasional, sustained.
  • Consistent Outreach & Volunteering
    Showing up for someone outside yourself. Service reorders the soul.
  • Volunteering & Outreach
    Showing up for someone outside yourself. Service reorders the soul.
  • Accountability + Prayer Partners
    People who carry you in prayer and ask the hard questions.
  • Accountability Partners
    People who know your patterns and ask you the hard questions on the days you don't want to be asked.
  • Counseling
    Trained help. The wound that wouldn't close on its own needs a different set of hands.
  • Therapy
    A clinical seat at the table. Healing is a team sport.
G Row III · How you sit with yourself
  • Personal Bible Study & Journaling
    Time with Scripture that nobody schedules for you.
  • Personal Study & Journaling
    Time with your own thoughts that nobody schedules for you.
  • Practicing Gratitude
    The posture that the enemy cannot occupy at the same time.
  • Practicing Gratitude
    The posture that resentment cannot occupy at the same time.
  • Keep the LIGHT On!
    The center cell. The daily decision underneath every other square.
  • Choosing Forgiveness
    Releasing what was done to you so it stops controlling what comes next.
  • Choosing Forgiveness
    Releasing what was done to you so it stops controlling what comes next.
  • Nature Walks
    Outside. Slow. The body needs creation as much as the soul does.
  • Time in Nature
    Outside. Slow. The body needs the natural world as much as the mind does.
H Row IV · What feeds you
  • Meditation on Scripture
    Sitting with one verse until it speaks back to you.
  • Quiet Reflection & Stillness
    Sitting with one thought until it speaks back to you.
  • Singing Gospel Music
    Worship that uses your own voice as the speaker.
  • Music That Lifts Your Spirit
    Music that uses your own voice as the speaker.
  • Listening to the Word or Worship Overnight
    Feeding your subconscious while you sleep — what plays at night shapes what wakes up.
  • Listening to Something That Restores You Overnight
    Feeding your subconscious while you sleep — what plays at night shapes what wakes up.
  • Sharing Your Testimony
    Your story out loud. It heals you on the way to helping someone else.
  • Sharing Your Story
    Your story out loud. It heals you on the way to helping someone else.
  • Remembering Those Who Have Less Than Me
    Perspective is a discipline. So is generosity.
  • Remembering Those Who Have Less Than You
    Perspective is a discipline. So is generosity.
T Row V · What you speak over your life
  • Practicing Thankfulness
    Worship for what is, not what isn't.
  • Practicing Thankfulness
    Honoring what is, not what isn't.
  • Serving Your Family
    Love at home is the proving ground for love anywhere.
  • Serving Your Family
    Love at home is the proving ground for love anywhere.
  • Cleansing Relationships
    Some doors close so your light can stay on. Pray over the goodbye.
  • Removing Toxic Relationships
    Some doors close so your light can stay on. Honor the goodbye.
  • Rehearsing & Confessing Scripture
    Speaking God's words about you until you believe them.
  • Speaking Truth Over Your Life
    Speaking the truest words about you until you believe them.
  • Personal Confessions
    Declaring who God says you are, before the day gets a chance to say otherwise.
  • Personal Declarations of Who You Are
    Declaring who you are, before the day gets a chance to say otherwise.
The other half of the framework

A light burns brighter against what tried to put it out.

Have you read the A.B.U.S.E. Awareness Grid? It's the companion to this one — the map of what trauma planted, what L.I.G.H.T. exists to answer. The framework only works when you hold both halves.

Read the A.B.U.S.E. Grid
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